The Energy Behind Your Clothes: How to Create a High-Vibe Wardrobe
Anyone who has traveled with me knows that I am NOT a light packer. One time when I was going on vacation (to a tropical location, nonetheless) I brought an entire suitcase just for shoes.
I’m not sure what happened (likely just shame that has slowly penetrated my psyche), but over the past year I’ve become fascinated with people who bring the equivalent of a shopping tote with all of their belongings for a week. How does this work?! And is this actually feasible?
I went on a trip a few months ago and was absolutely insistent that I only bring a carry on and nothing else. This was especially challenging for me because I was going somewhere cold so I really had to fight the desire to bring 4 pairs of boots, 7 sweaters, 3 coats…you see how this goes. In my defense, I just like to be prepared.
My packing experience with this particular challenge helped me realize a few things:
1. I had way too many clothes that I never wear
2. I really didn’t actually like most of the clothes I owned
3. It was time for me to do a clothing purge
I also realized how often I fall victim to any of the following when shopping:
» THIS IS SUCH A GOOD DEAL I MUST PURCHASE,
» I’ve been here too long and I’m hungry and tired and I just want to be done so I’ll buy this,
» I’ve now spent 3 hours combing through Nordstrom Rack and I can’t even tell red from yellow anymore and I think this faux fur vest in a pink cheetah print could look cute in the right lighting,
» What a horrible day, let me just go ahead and casually sort though the shoe sales, not like I’ll buy anything but wow this pair of 4” heels are irresistible and I’ll definitely get use out of them even though I walk everywhere and really only wear a soft cry of a wedge like once a month.
I started to think about the energy behind my clothes and how, when we purchase things for the wrong reasons (see above), we end up with crap that we only wear once or wear repeatedly because we bought it and feel obligated to use but actually don’t really like it.
Speaking of energy, I’d also like to point out that clothes made in sweatshops by companies that only want to manipulate you into this endless cycle of fast and inexpensive purchases carry a remarkably different energy than those crafted by a company that engages with sustainable practices and mindful distribution and sales. Note: If you want to learn more about this, check out the documentary, ‘The True Cost’ – it’s a must-watch for anyone who has stepped foot in a Forever 21, H&M, etc.
Enter the purge.
I signed up for this online service that helps you determine what you specifically need in your wardrobe based on your day-to-day activities and needs; the first step in this endeavor was doing a wardrobe purge.
The idea is that you touch every single item in your wardrobe and only keep it if you love it. In essence, you are just reading the energy around every piece of clothing; if you get good vibes from it, well done--it stays. Funky vibes? Donate.
I LOVE a good purge so this was almost too easy for me. I had the opposite problem of many in that I didn’t really feel any emotional attachment to 95% of my clothes, so I could easily just donate everything and be fine with it.
So I just purged my little heart out, donated lots of clothes that I’m sure will make someone very happy, and pared down my wardrobe to only items that I actually need, wear often, and love.
Let me tell you about the huge difference I feel.
It is so much easier to get dressed in the morning, everything is organized, I regularly wear everything I own, and, when I do purchase things now, I feel good about where my dollar goes and the companies I support. I’ve also gotten much better about this in the past several years (although there’s always room for improvement) but I now know exactly what pieces I need to purchase so I no longer shop aimlessly.
I created a high-vibe wardrobe and I love it.
Here are my tips if you decide to give this a try:
» Be honest about how you feel about what you wear—it’s what represents you and is a big piece of the energy you send out into the world. You don’t need to spend a lot of money or wear high-end items to prove something to others, but you do need to feel confident in what you’re wearing because people notice! Again, this is all about energy and what you’re putting out there. For example, I once was going through a really fiscally difficult time and could only afford to hit up Goodwill. I found this cute blouse that hailed from Anthropologie and was in perfect condition, but every time I wore it, I could only think of how broke I was when I bought it. It consistently would bring me back to that time and I absolutely carried that energy around with me every single time I had that shirt on my back.
» Shop with intention. If you do decide to purchase new items, make sure you’re clear on specifically what you need (and I’d challenge you to ask yourself if you reallllly need it). Are you shopping because you are bored or because you’re feeling crappy about yourself? Are you looking for some kind of emotional fulfillment instead of dealing with what’s really going on? We tend to seek gratification from material things when we’re not feeling quite right, so pay attention to this. When we shop without intention, we end up creating clutter and this does not help the energy you’re trying to create. Good wardrobe energy is clutter-free.
» Your dollar is your vote. If you don’t support the idea of sweatshops and the energy behind where those clothes come from, don’t spend your money with those companies. When you purchase items that are made with care and quality materials, you’ll have them for years. When we buy things that are poorly made or that we really don’t need / like / want, we end up here:
The average American throws away roughly 82 lbs of clothing per year.